Alas, i have failed to write for yet another week! How terrible of me, going back on such promises...
Anyway i am back, i'm sorry i haven't done any gymnastics updates so here's a quick one! Two weeks have passed since my last post, i have learned to do back handsprings on the floor now, and stopped wearing leotards to class as it is much too cold for that now. No big progressions as i have been beyond exhausted.
Yesterday i went skating with a few family members of mine, it was fabulous!
And now, to the main post, of which i hope will make up for my lost posts!
And of course, given that this is a positive blog (although i'm hoping for a negative one too!) let's begin with negative so we can end positively~! <3
Without further ado, let's start <3
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5 Things that Break a Friendship (in no particular order)
1) Selfishness.
there is no room for selfishness in a friendship. Yes, everyone is entitled to feel selfish once in awhile, friendship is a selfish thing, in reality. both parties take and take and take, yet what makes it so is the mutuality. one takes and one gives, and then again, oppositely. yet, when it comes time that one side is giving more than she is receiving, then surely, this friendship is fated to hell. and if there is ever any confusion - the definition of selfishness is to think only of oneself without regards to anybody else.
2) Ignorance
is closely tied in to selfishness. as long as one is able to admit their flaws or selfishness, then surely it is fixable. self-awareness is the catalyst of which better things come. but should one contain an ignorant disposition, such flaws cannot be fixed; surely the downfall of a friendship. to deny or to believe in, both of which especially to selfishness, would certainly destroy any friendship. if you cannot admit that you are flawed and attempt to fix them as i do my best to, then we are not meant to be friends. i will not stand for blind ignorance.
3) Morals
majority of the world has morals, have they not? yet what if morals conflict? should one friend be tenderhearted and easily moved, and the other cruel and coldhearted? then surely it's not meant to be - should we ever hast a clash in morals, then let it be, let us not be friends. i say it's fine to have a friendly conversation, or to stay by them when one has nowhere else to go, but a long time thing? no way, nohow.
4) Control
Ought anyone ever be overly controlling in a friendship? I say, if you try to control me, then sure, i suppose i will play along for awhile, a few months, maybe a year or two, but have no doubt: friends are definitely not truly friends if either attempts to be too controlling - i say to anyone who tries to control me - good riddance for you, and i look forward to the way we part ways. nothing makes you better than me, and therefore, you have no right to control me in any shape, way, or form.
5) Limitlessness
everyone has limits. this is a given fact in life. even saints have limits. friends ought to know these limits and stay clear of them. if anyone was to push my limits, day after day, "poking the dog" per say, attempting to break that fine line between love and hate? well, i say go ahead. but when i leave and never return, don't go around wondering why. you know it well, wouldn't you? no one likes to be nudged closer and closer to their breaking point. it's unpleasant.
5 Things that Make a Friendship (in no particular order)
1) Safety
safety is a key issue among friends. yes, thrill is good, but thrill is more boyfriend material. a friendship ought to feel safe. it should be a warm word in your mouth that stays there like cotton candy - sweet and everlasting, soft and downy.
2) Laughter
i like people who can make me laugh. i think everyone does. if someone can make you laugh so hard you forget all about your troubles, even momentarily, then i say that's a friend worth keeping. laughter is the best medicine, after all!
3) Genuineness
it's rare to come across truly genuine people in the world. if you ever meet someone earnest and pure, then they would definitely make the best of friends. the opposite of a bad friend, who is underhanded, conniveing, and constantly scheming, the earnest friend would provide so much more. they are a team player - the best of the best.
4) Common Interests
it's true that you can build a friendship out of nothing - situation often does that. but if you can so help it, a friend that can laugh and share the same things one cares about, is truly one of the best types of friends. much to talk about, much to achieve together. what more could we want?
5) Understanding
everyone has nuances. those that can understand these nuances and navigate them properly are good friends. since that way, they never push your limits and you would never push theirs.
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On a final word, i do have to admit, i do not have a lot of friends in my life right now.
Aquaintinces i do have, as do i have pen-pals, but in all reality, my friends are few and far between.
And then again, to be truthful, some of these friends i think are simply not fated to be. our situation has put us together and held us there, and this aside, there really would be nothing to bind our friendship, nor to solidify it.
a final word of wisdom for all -
know the limits. and respect them.
^_^
well, i was also late in posting this entry , i started it but didn't finish up till now . .. .
again, take these with a grain of salt, they are simply my opinions, and i also think i might start a new blog soon! It will be friendship based, and focuses on the metamorphysis of my own person.
And i will apologize for updates that are not routine, i'm going through a difficult time right now and i'm trying to sort things out.
Stay positive, all~! <3
Ganbatte ne~! <3 ^_^
~RE
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